- Raya, we have a new head manager, who joined our company 2 months ago. During this period, he has been visiting manager's meetings, conferences, presentations to have an opinion about each one and to create his new structure of the company and cooperation.
Today, yes, today was my day. It was not my best meeting, I wasn't in my best. All my family is ill with Covid, I am 24/7 cooking/cleaning/caring and forgetting to sleep.
He is waiting for me in his office to give a feedback. He will fire me. I can't do it any more, I am tired. I know that there are people who are better than me, and also they are in a better emotional state. I don't know what I will do without this job, I don't know what to do in this chaos, there are so many problems, and I must concentrate. I don't know if I can enter his office without crying.
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- First of all I want to acknowledge you for being so wonderful mom, wife and daughter, and do not forget about anyone in your family and caring about them and preparing for them the tastiest dishes. Hugging and loving them in any circumstances. Thank you.
Darling, I know that you are the best manager I know. And I am sure your boss will see the same.
Also, I think your boss is present to the situation with the Covid in the company, in the country and in the world, and he will understand you.
It doesn't matter what feedback you will receive from him - positive or negative - you can create whatever you want with this feedback - it's not an irreversible decision. Whatever he will say to you, you can share with him your ideas and concerns. It's not him against you, you are playing on the same team for the same mutual goal - effectiveness of the company. OK?
3 hours later
- Raya, thank you for creating me and empowering me, I was very confident and calm in a meeting with my boss without side things.
He told me that I am a very good manager and a leader and offered me to plan additional NIS 500K for my unit this year. He shared his ideas, I shared mine, so he asked me to prepare something till the end of the week. Wow. It's unreal! Wow! I am happy!
Sometimes we all have these stressful days, full of fatigue, fear for our family, fear for our financial situation.
We need someone who can
listen to everything we have to say, everything we have to say,
Our responsibility is to be coachable person, doesn’t shrink away from change, understand that change (way of thinking) can be a good thing, even if it’s uncomfortable and willingly do the work to adapt.